Updated: Jan 3, 2019
Have you experienced shame? What exactly is shame? Is there a difference between guilt and shame? What is the difference and how does it affect our lives?
Right now, I would say one of my favorite things is anything that has to do with Brené Brown. I find it is usually the latest book I am enjoying. So in the spirit of this - I am currently reading, “I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t)” by Brené Brown and before that I read “Daring Greatly," another book by her.
Her research and discussion on Shame has been so eye opening, interesting and thought provoking. Here are a few things that I have learned:
Shame surrounds us all the time – what counts is our awareness of the behavior and how we react to it or how we engage in it.
Reaching out to express the Shame or express how it makes us feel when others shame us is 100% important.
And finally, becoming and working with the steps to be shame resilient take a lot of work and practice AND it is worth the all the work and awareness.
Start paying attention – the feeling of shame can pop up in an interaction with another, or it could come about because of the conversations we have in our heads. It is something that exposes our vulnerability to either say – this affects me in this way or when we stand up for another and expose the shame. As we interact with our family, with our siblings, with our in-laws, with our parents, with our children, with our community, through our work, at the local hangout on a Saturday night….let me just say, how we treat and communicate with one another MATTERS. Do some of your own research and if you have interest pick up one of Brené Brown's books or watch one of her videos on YouTube.